LOTHA

What It Is

Rejection is the feeling a person experiences when they’re not accepted as they are in society or their immediate circle, across various aspects of life. The heart says, “I feel out of place, I don’t feel good because I want to be loved and valued for who I am.”
It’s part of the human condition: the heart and soul cry out in unison, “I want to exist because I have the fundamental right to be.”
This emotional imprint arises when someone feels ignored, rejected, or excluded in social, professional, or personal relationships, accompanied by a sense of not existing.

Where Does It Come From?

It stems from a series of repeated negative experiences where you felt rejected multiple times, and the ego, taking it as an affront, says, “I’m sidelined because I’m not worthy of attention or love.”
The ego, the interface between our inner and outer worlds, tends to take things personally, treating perceptions as facts and feeding our deepest illusions.
It feels rejected and concludes, “Since the outside world rejects me, I must change the image I project to be accepted.”
The ego fuels the illusion that perceptions are facts.

This creates profound loneliness, whether you’re surrounded by people or not, whether you have hundreds of relationships or none at all. You feel rejected because your need for belonging isn’t met. You question and blame yourself for not meeting others’ or society’s expectations.
You end up isolating yourself, thinking, “Maybe I’d be better off being like this or that,” or “If I wear this or that mask, I’ll be accepted more easily,” or even “I’m not enough of this, so I need to be like that,” not realizing this doesn’t heal the wound.

Why Is It There?

It’s neither a punishment nor a condemnation.
It’s a signal, saying: “Your ego feeds the illusion that your worth lies in how others perceive you and that controlling your image will control their judgment. So listen to me -it’s your ego judging you. If you want to stop suffering, stop wearing masks, be yourself, dare to say ‘no,’ dare to assert yourself, embrace what makes you unique, stop compromising, be authentic.”
I exist because I am.

By accepting the wound as a signal, you release its grip on the ego. You reach a tipping point where the ego says:
“I’m not defined by what the world sees in me. I don’t exist through others. I’m defined because I exist, and I’m enough because I exist.”

What Is Its Power?

Its power lies in two key aspects:

• It shines a light on engrams: the questions that surface in pain are exactly those your unconscious has repressed from past experiences. The goal is to allow yourself to ask these questions.
• Through work, it teaches that it’s the ego that’s wounded, speaking for us -not our imagination choosing to suffer.
• It helps identify flaws in our relationship with ourselves.

Once you integrate these three elements, you gain the perspective needed to let the wound teach you the essential keys to personal growth.
Until you accept it, these experiences may repeat until you shift your stance toward them.

What It Teaches

• Suffering is an illusion: It’s not us speaking, but the pain speaking for us.
• Our worth isn’t based on belonging to others or how they perceive us.
• Our identity isn’t defined by others.
• We owe nothing to others, but likely owe something to ourselves: What have we done to reject ourselves? Do we love ourselves enough to have the courage to say “no” when we want to?
• Our appearance neither increases nor diminishes our worth.
• Our value is independent of others’ expectations, “everyone’s” expectations, or what we judge as “good” or “bad.”
• Self-acceptance and self-love.

Why Transmute It?

When you don’t transmute the wound of rejection, you live through society’s and others’ gaze. The external world conditions how you exist, live, and behave. Others end up shaping your choices without you realizing it.
If I’m not my own mirror, then I’m the mirror of others.
Transmuting it frees you completely from these illusions, allowing you to live consciously aware of your worth in an aligned and authentic way.

How to Transmute It?

• Accept. Whatever the question or element, don’t resist -accept it.
• Answer these questions:
• What’s stopping me from accepting myself as I am?
• Why is it important for me to change?
• Is it worth it?
• Am I in control of my own choices?
• Who’s influencing my life?
• Do I have enough love within me to love myself authentically?
• Am I ready to maintain my personal integrity no matter what, despite real or perceived pressures?
• What are my values? Why are they so important to me?
• Who am I?

Lotha